Take a Close Look at Your Inner Circle

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by Dana on May 30, 2012

In today’s success strategy, I’d like to focus on your inner circle—or the people that you surround yourself with.

You know the saying, “You are what you eat”? Well, you are who you hang around with. In fact, the late Jim Rohn suggested that you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with. So think about who those people are for you…Are they living the kind of life that you’d ideally like to live and demonstrating the kind of attitude that you’d like to see in yourself?

And think about this as well…People tend to rise or fall according to the expectations of the people around them. So what does your inner circle expect of you—do they expect you to be wildly successful, physically fit, wealthy and personally fulfilled? Or do they just expect you to have an average kind of life?

Based on your answers to the previous questions, at this point you may be thinking that you have to go out and get yourself a new group of friends to spend time with…and that you likely will have to ditch most of your family. Not at all! I don’t recommend that you dump all the people in your life who aren’t quite as achievement-oriented as you (unless, of course, they are what I call “energy vampires” who suck the life out of you—but that’s a different discussion for another time).

Instead of ending your relationships, I recommend that you just make a conscious effort to add plenty of positive, success-minded people who share your values and have your best interests at heart into the mix of people you spend time with.

You can try to meet people like this at networking groups, professional organizations, charities, special interest groups, book clubs or the gym—think anywhere where people are investing their time or money in bettering themselves.

So I’d like you to challenge you to brainstorm 2 or 3 places where you can put yourself in the company of high-achieving people—and then get out there and start mingling with them.